“It’s the most wonderful time of the year...” or so we are told. Most of us experience mood swings during this time of year – and it can be easy to feel sad about being single. Follow these five easy tips to maximize your happiness and energy during the holiday season!
1) Know that you're not alone!
There is often comfort in numbers! The US Census says there are 107 MM single adults in this country - 43% of the adult population -- so if you think you're the only single person left, you're NOT! Be heartened that there are many great fish in the ocean and your fish will come to you.
2) Get Out and About -- Say YES to everything!
As much as you can, say yes to everything that sounds good. This is the time of year where there are so many gatherings, parties, and cocktail - and 1/3 married folks met through family/friends. But know yourself, and what you need. If you like to be social/around people, make plans to keep yourself out and about, spending time with people that make you happiest - maybe schedule 3-4 nights of activities per week. On the other hand, if you need a little social time and more recharge time, maybe 1-2 nights out is enough. And, surround yourself with positive people who elevate you – leave the Debbie Downers at home.
There is no better feeling than giving, and volunteering is an amazing way to fill up your soul. Lead the pack – put a pack of friends together, find an organization and mobilize. Or, just google volunteering opportunities in your area -- it'll get you out, meeting new people, and giving back to the community which makes everyone feel better.
As life gets busier, we tend to let some meaningful relationships languish a bit. A great happiness bump is to pick a few people a week to CALL (not text) and reconnect. Oxytocin is the attachment hormone, and hearing the voices of people you care about will get the juices flowing – to make you feel happy.
5) Make a Dating Plan
If you want to find love, this is the best time of year to reboot! Online dating memberships on Match can spike nearly 30% at this time of year - as people are making resolutions. Make a specific goal for dating or love -- and create specific actionable daily steps. A goal can be: “I’m going to find five new people to email each day this week” or whatever feels good for you. If you need someone to hold you accountable, find a buddy or work with professionals like us to help you do it. Anything big in life requires a plan – so kick it into high gear.
Posted on Mon, December 21, 2015
by Bela Ghandi