1) Fill up your schedule accordingly so you feel happy and active.
- Know yourself and what you need! If you're an extroverted spirit, make plans to keep yourself out and about, spending time with people that make you happiest.
- For both extroverts and introverts, nurturing great platonic friendships can be super satisfying. What better time than the holidays to do things for the people that are always there for you?
- Volunteering is a great way to take your mind off your own troubles and focus on helping others. It'll get you out, meeting new people, and giving back to the community which makes everyone feel better!
**If you're looking for new activities, check out www.meetup.com! It's a great site with interest groups on virtually everything imaginable.
2) Have an arsenal of responses for the aggravating questions of well-meaning friends and relatives.
The best way to not worry about those awkward moments is to be prepared for them! If you know that Aunt Sally or Uncle Bill will ask you, "Honey....why are you still single?" have a response ready to go!
Here are some examples of effective deflectors:
- "I'm so glad you asked! I'll give you an award if you can set me up with someone great." - This shows that you have a positive attitude towards finding love, and people tend to soften/warm up when they feel like they can be of help.
- "Well, now that I've seen your relationship, I won't settle for anything less than what you guys have got!" - This is another way to charm people into laying off the questions. They feel flattered that they are admired by you and don't want to make you change your mind by pressuring you too much.
- "Please - I don't think there's anyone out there right now who can keep up with my schedule!" - You are acknowledging a legitimate reason honestly, while throwing in a joking twist. Being able to have a sense of humor about your issues emanates ease and self-confidence.
- "Well if I were in a relationship, we wouldn't be able to hang out like this without him getting jealous, would we? Hmm...I don't know if I want that restriction." - If you're being asked the question by someone cute, turn it into an opportunity to flirt! Flaunt your singleness as a positive thing, and let people know you're available!
3) Make a Dating Plan
If you want to find love, this is the best time of year to reboot! Online dating memberships spike 38% at this time of year, as people are making resolutions to find love.
- Make a specific goal for dating or love -- and create specific actionable daily steps. Write these steps down, and check them off as you go.
-If you need someone to hold you accountable, find a buddy or work with professionals to help you do it!
- With online dating there are over 1,500 websites right now, and dozens of great apps -- try something out! You should get on one/two dating sites, at least one app, join two meet up groups, etc.
- Put 30 minutes into your dating life on a daily basis -- love will not magically happen!
Posted on Mon, December 15, 2014