Body Image and Dating

It's a controversial topic, but one that the team at Smart Dating Academy definitely has worked out a stance on. So how much does fitness really matter when it comes to dating? The answer is...well, it depends on the kind of person you are. But we're here to help you figure that out!


Most likely, you've heard the common phrase, "If you can't change your situation, change your attitude" before. When it comes to body image, you have two options - if you're not happy with your body, you either change your situation or you change your attitude.

Many times, people come to Smart Dating Academy feeling insecure about their body and wanting to know if that will really make a difference in how successful they will be in the dating field. In fact, it isn't so much how your body objectively looks that matters - it's how you feel about it. If you are comfortable in your own skin, people will feel comfortable with you. The body types that are glorified in today's fashion ads are not representative of the tastes of an entire population, and there are all different kinds of people out there who are attracted to different physical traits. But regardless of your body type, there is no allure more potent than inner joy, peace, and self-confidence. If you can embrace that concept, there is no need for you to change your body in order to date successfully.

That is not to say that we at Smart Dating Academy do not encourage the pursuit of fitness. Numerous studies have shown that regular exercise increases your overall happiness and confidence - on top of that, it keeps you healthy! But specifically in relevance to the topic at hand, pursuing a fit body and lifestyle can be helpful if you are unable to fully accept yourself as you are in your current state. There are people who will not truly feel comfortable in their skin unless they feel fit and look fit - and if that's you, then embrace your mentality! People are wired differently, and some people are better off changing the situation than changing the attitude, if you will. If this is your personality, then hitting the gym - despite how unappealing it may seem in those cold winter months -  may be your route to feeling more confident in yourself. At the end of the day, what matters is that you reach a point where you are comfortable and happy with the way you are!